Welcoming a new baby is a big moment, not just for parents, but for big brothers and sisters, too. If you’re planning a newborn photoshoot and also have older children, you might be wondering… how do we make sure they feel part of it all?

Hey I’m Amy, a newborn and family photographer based in Sussex, and over half of my newborn sessions include older siblings. It’s something I absolutely love. Every big brother or sister brings their own vibe, some are bouncing with excitement and can’t wait to show off their new sibling. Others might be a little unsure, taking their time to adjust to the changes happening at home. Both are completely normal. And both deserve to feel seen and included.

So, if you’re wondering how on earth you’ll manage wrangling a toddler with a newborn, or whether your older ones will participate at all, this post is especially for you.

Why It’s So Important to Make Siblings Feel Included

Newborn sessions aren’t just about the baby. Of course, they’re the reason we’re there, those tiny fingers and slow, sleepy blinks absolutely need to be captured. But I’m always focused on the full picture of your family’s story. The newness, yes, but also the connections unfolding around your baby.

For me, including older siblings isn’t just a tick-box moment for one or two photos. It’s about helping them feel excited and seen during a time that can often feel a bit confusing or “all about the baby.” Whether they’re throwing themselves into cuddle duty or hanging back with their toys, how they show up tells part of your story, too.

My Approach to Photographing Families with Older Siblings

Every family is different, and over the years I’ve adapted a gentle, flexible approach that puts your children’s comfort first. Here’s how I make sure everyone feels part of it in a way that feels natural and relaxed:

1. Meet Them Where They Are … No Pressure

Some siblings are eager, others more cautious. I’ll never force a child into a photo they don’t want to be in. If your eldest wants to dive right in with baby snuggles, amazing. If they’d rather lurk around the edges first, that’s perfectly fine too. I’ll take their lead and build their confidence slowly so they feel safe and in control.

And, usually, once they see that no one’s making them “perform,” they naturally warm up and want to get involved. Trust builds quickly once they realise I’m not there to boss them about.

2. Start with the Family, Then Let Them Chill

In nearly every newborn session, I’ll begin with family photos or sibling-and-baby shots. We do these early while everyone’s energy is up, and before the bigger kids get bored or distracted. They get their “job” done, feel included, and then they’re free to head off and play, snack, or hang out with a parent while I continue with photos of you and your newborn.

But if they’re feeling shy? I shift the plan. I might start with mum, dad and baby, so the sibling can watch, feel things out, and join us when they’re ready.

3. Let Them Be Kids. Snacks, Toys, and Wiggles Welcome

There’s no need to bribe or beg children to pose a certain way. The beauty of natural family photography is that chaos is totally part of the story. If your child wants to show me their favourite toy or sing a song mid-shoot? Brilliant. I often find the unexpected interactions lead to the most beautiful, heartfelt images.

Let them be exactly who they are … silly, cuddly, wild, or calm. That’s what we’re celebrating.

4. Involve Them in the Prep

One of my favourite tips: chat to your older kids ahead of time about the photoshoot. Frame it as a special family moment, not just for “baby pictures.” Get them talking about it, and let them choose what they’d like to wear (from a pre-approved selection…you’re still the stylist here, don’t worry!).

Giving them some input, even something as small as choosing between two outfits, helps them feel a sense of ownership and excitement about the day.

Why This Isn’t Just About Photos

Including older siblings in your newborn session isn’t only about making things “go smoothly.” It’s about memory and belonging. These images will be a part of what your children remember about this season of your family.

When they look back at those photos years from now, I want them to see their little self with their new sibling and think: that’s when everything changed for the better.

Every comforting hand on baby’s blanket, every shy glance, every tickle or giggle … it all matters. It all says: you were there. You were loved. You are important.

Planning Your Session? Let’s Make It Feel Effortless

So if you’re expecting and thinking about newborn photos, but also wondering how your older kids will handle it, please know: I’ve got you 🧡

This is what I do, and I’ll help your session feel easy, inclusive, and full of warmth … no matter your child’s personality or mood that day. You don’t have to do anything perfectly. You just have to show up as you are. I’ll take care of the rest.

If you’re in West Sussex and curious about booking a natural newborn session with siblings involved, feel free to get in touch, I’d love to chat and hear your family’s story.

See you soon

Amy x

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P.S. Want to see more maternity and newborn sessions? Come and say hi over on Instagram @amyclairebarnes_photography. I share recent shoots, little everyday moments, and inspiration for capturing those early days with your baby. ✨